By Tarhaka Amaana El Bey. (Please share this post)
All too often we forget that methods and technics change but principals remain the same.
A newborn baby does not care about you and daddy or mommy just got married and yall just bought a new $400,000,00 home with indoor and outdoor swimming pool.
The only thing that baby is interested in is what it wants WHERE IS MY BOTTLE, IM HUNGRY, I WANT MY DIAPER CHANGED AND WHERE IS MY MOMMIE AND DADDY.
Because what he or she wants will make him or her happy, and that's the bottom line.
But where we as adults go wrong is forgetting that we are still that same baby.
We as adults get into trouble when we start thinking that maybe we should start making other people happy at the expense of our own happiness, and we think we can make someone else happy, NOPE!
The only people who can do that is them.
Case in point when was the last time someone found you after an exhaustive search all over town to give you a $1000.00 just because they like you that much and want to make you happy.
In a lot of cases, you will have to chase them down trying to get your $20.00 back you loaned them a year ago.
By now you should be able to see that you should make a list of what you want in this life which will make you happy.
That's what its all about the only man or woman you should be concentrating on making happy is you.
If you run into someone you think you want to make happy, find out if they are trying to make themselves happy before you do your thing to make yourself happy and taking them along for the ride.
Let's look at this from another perspective ship sink in the North Atlantic lifeboats can only hold 12 people 13 will sink it too.
But here swims another man swimming toward your lifeboat filled to capacity already begging to get in the life raft which will kill all people in the life raft,
what will y'all do.
I will tell you what you better do
You should remain happy.
Happiness is possible only when you are in the process of accomplishment and drowning is not happy.
Neither is it progress.
Here is the biggest of them all and its cold-blooded (PEOPLE ARE INTERESTED IN YOU ONLY TO THE EXTENT OF WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP THEM TOTALLY OVERLOOKING THE FACT THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THEM ONLY TO THE EXTENT OF WHAT THEY CAN DO TO HELP YOU). Now that's cold-blooded but that's the way of the world.
YOU DON'T GET INTO TROUBLE UNTIL YOU START THINKING YOU CAN MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY. (YOU CAN'T).
This can be trickier than you think sometimes we get caught up in the moment or some old saying like if a man slaps you turn the other cheek. Pray for those who spitefully use you.
IF SOMEONE SLAPS YOU GO TO WORK!...IF SOMEONE SPITEFULLY USE YOU GO TO WORK ON THEM. It will bring you more happiness.
Now this is what its all about being happy you can't even do a good job contributing to the happiness of others if you have not dealt with your own happiness and watch out for those people who use words like selfishness towards you because every time they see you, your always happy and remember misery loves company.
Do a check on them you will find out they don't even know in a lot of cases they supposed to be happy themselves. You can't give nobody anything if you have nothing and if you ain't never happy it's even harder.
I hope some of this makes sense to you sitting down in a group huddled up together with candle's lit singing we shall overcome WILL NOT WORK FOR YOU! Get your butt up and go to work and start working on your own happiness so you will have the power to make an (OVERCOME).
Y'all have to excuse me sometimes I get excited about this topic because a lot of us are afraid to be happy, we don't know how, we think we don't deserve it, we don't want to be accused of being selfish, and at the same time we forgot that we are that same baby we were born as. And it has always been about us.
Ok whats the bottom line well I made a realistic list about what will make me happy when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex and this is just a start it's called WHAT I WANT! Part two is WHAT I DON'T WANT. (make your own list study it get it right think about it and remember to stay on the real baby show).
I got to go now because this is getting HOT!
One more true point there was an old lady who took it upon herself to feed bears on her property up in the mid west in the United States that made her and the bears happy but one night she was not feeling well and decided she was not going out to feed the bears the next morning they found her ripped to peace outside of her home in a ditch her walker was bent to hell but guess what the bears were there when the police arrived and were happy they had helped themselves to her whole house including her, you be the judge. http://www.newdebtelimination.com